Me, me, me!!!

Wow. Long test. http://www.psych.upenn.edu/seligman/strengths/ But here are my results.

1. Spirituality, sense of purpose, and faith

You have strong and coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe. You know where you fit in the larger scheme. Your beliefs shape your actions and are a source of comfort to you.

2. Curiosity and interest in the world

You are curious about everything. You are always asking questions, and you find all subjects and topics fascinating. You like exploration and discovery.

3. Humor and playfulness

You like to laugh and tease. Bringing smiles to other people is important to you. You try to see the light side of all situations.

4. Judgment, critical thinking, and open- mindedness

Thinking things through and examining them from all sides are important aspects of who you are. You do not jump to conclusions, and you rely only on solid evidence to make your decisions. You are able to change your mind.

5. Kindness and generosity

You are kind and generous to others, and you are never too busy to do a favor. You enjoy doing good deeds for others, even if you do not know them well.

( You, you, you )

Dear Ms. (or Mr.) Manners

Question for you gurus of lj etiquette - if I want to friend someone, should I just do it or is there an expected protocol to follow? Should I say, "Hey, I'm friending you" with an explanation of why? All the ones currently on my list, I've either met in person, or saw them in someone else's journal and recognized the screenname, or added them because they friended me first. But what about people whom I don't know (and don't know me) who share the same interests or just seem like cool people - what's the method there?

Or am I just a paranoid freak who's overthinking this and should get out of the house more often? It's not that I'm shy; it's just...well, actually, I guess I am a little shy. Who knew?

Thoughts? Musings? Peaceful uprisings?

And, in somewhat related news, yea! preciouslilme is on lj! I added you back. And I finally added graysong, and just a shade under five months after meeting her, too. I'm a little slow.

Anyway. I've gotten a whole lot done today. Even finished my syllabus for the holiday mini-mester (yes, I'm teaching during the holidays - what else do I have to do?). My eyes are starting to cross from sitting at the computer all day, though. Maybe I should eat something.

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Stolen from aelora first...

1) Which would you choose, to live for 10 years of relative happiness or 20 years of relative sadness.

20 years of relative sadness. Sadness isn't necessarily bad. And if the rest is relatively...not sad...then that's ok. And I hope that my 20 years has past.

2) If there was one book, play or movie that you could erase from your memory just to enjoy reading/seeing it again for the first time, what would it be?

The Once and Future King. I loved that book. I still do, but it's just not the same when you know how it ends.

3) Would you stay at a job that paid you $150,000 a year if you really disliked your co-workers because they were narrow minded bigots? If not, what circumstances would make you stay at a job like that?

Oh, yes. What's left of my sanity has a price, and that just about covers it. Besides, I had the first 18 years of my life to practice dealing with people like that, so I'm pretty good at it by now.

4) What are the three most important traits of friendship?

Honesty, loyalty, sense of humor.

5) What are the three physical things about someone that attract you the most?

Lips. I could waste many a happy hour staring at a nice set of lips. Strong hands. General lankiness (for lack of a better word).

6) If you were truly in love with someone and you knew they were interested in you but they were unhappily married, would you pursue them?

No. First of all, I can't even work up the nerve to ask someone out who's probably interested when he's single. Second, relationships are difficult enough without having to deal with a third person (although...never mind). And third, my temporary happiness (because, let's face it - I'm pretty fickle) isn't worth causing that third party, who probably is also in love with the guy, that kind of pain.

Of course, having said this, I am recalling a time where I did pursue someone who was taken. But they weren't married, so it doesn't count. :)

7) If you could make a wish come true, would you make someone you are in love with, but who does not love you, fall in love with you without their consent?

Well, if I made them fall in love with me, then they would technically be consenting after the fact, right? :)

I probably wouldn't. I would just eventually lose interest and move on to someone who is smart enough to love me back.

8) If you ate the last cookie, candy, or piece of pie do you admit it?

Yes. Gleefully. Complete with dancing. Except that I can never bring myself to eat the last piece. Stupid southern hospitality upbringing.

9) What is the one thing that you own that you would never give up?

My ring that Margat made me. I can't replace it, and it reminds me of her.

10) What are the three things you like the most about yourself?

My sense of humor, my loyalty to friends, my taste in coffee... :) (couldn't think of a third real one)

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