"Sorry I haven't been keeping up with everyone lately."
You and everyone under the terran sky, or so it seems. :) (I suppose I'd better say at the outset I'm not swinging again at anyone in particular. Not you or anyone else. It's just that I find in it yet another destructive contradiction. We're so hyped on appearances in our culture, and yet we don't think about what our actions look like to others, regardless of what we mean.) There's always stuff to occupy your time, without even trying. When anyone asks if I ever get bored... I laugh. Me going all soapbox-y was mostly , per my usual, to make a point. Actions take effort, and so they speak louder than mere words. And it's easier to lie with words than with your body. Even the most optimistically generous person can only make so many excuses to themselves and believe it.
Take, for example, our DLF Chuckles, aka MR. He used to put up letters to his fans. Now he doesn't. And I saw a few break out with comments reflecting that negatively. Well, he's busy! We know that he's busy. It's blatantly obvious that he's busy! But still the comments are made, and at least they are honest about it.
Or, if someone spends a lot of time with you and asks for your time and help "as a friend." Fine; we spend time; we make time in our busy schedules to meet their needs. But if the last word we hear from them is that they are happy now and they never bother to get in contact with you again, what is the most likely conclusion? That we were used. We were a means to an end, and nothing more. They got what they wanted; we can go back in the box now like the good little puppet we were.
That's sarcasm, by the way. They may be busy. They may be hiding some terrible trouble that they're too embarrassed or ashamed to share. Hell! They may even be dead for all we know. But that's the point; we don't.Keeping back hurtful information may be felt to be a kindness, but sometimes I feel it's the greatest cruelty we possess. People do not need all of the truth all of the time, but they often need more than we are willing to give.
And since I'm going off on another tangent, I'll shut up now. At least I got most of the machine in a functional state, so that I can hook in online now! (Hope it stays that way...)
Personally, I can't determine the reasons behind people's actions without information. I can guess; I can try to piece it together
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Date: 2004-08-12 02:20 am (UTC)You and everyone under the terran sky, or so it seems. :) (I suppose I'd better say at the outset I'm not swinging again at anyone in particular. Not you or anyone else. It's just that I find in it yet another destructive contradiction. We're so hyped on appearances in our culture, and yet we don't think about what our actions look like to others, regardless of what we mean.) There's always stuff to occupy your time, without even trying. When anyone asks if I ever get bored... I laugh. Me going all soapbox-y was mostly , per my usual, to make a point. Actions take effort, and so they speak louder than mere words. And it's easier to lie with words than with your body. Even the most optimistically generous person can only make so many excuses to themselves and believe it.
Take, for example, our DLF Chuckles, aka MR. He used to put up letters to his fans. Now he doesn't. And I saw a few break out with comments reflecting that negatively. Well, he's busy! We know that he's busy. It's blatantly obvious that he's busy! But still the comments are made, and at least they are honest about it.
Or, if someone spends a lot of time with you and asks for your time and help "as a friend." Fine; we spend time; we make time in our busy schedules to meet their needs. But if the last word we hear from them is that they are happy now and they never bother to get in contact with you again, what is the most likely conclusion? That we were used. We were a means to an end, and nothing more. They got what they wanted; we can go back in the box now like the good little puppet we were.
That's sarcasm, by the way. They may be busy. They may be hiding some terrible trouble that they're too embarrassed or ashamed to share. Hell! They may even be dead for all we know. But that's the point; we don't.Keeping back hurtful information may be felt to be a kindness, but sometimes I feel it's the greatest cruelty we possess. People do not need all of the truth all of the time, but they often need more than we are willing to give.
And since I'm going off on another tangent, I'll shut up now. At least I got most of the machine in a functional state, so that I can hook in online now! (Hope it stays that way...)
Personally, I can't determine the reasons behind people's actions without information. I can guess; I can try to piece it together